A few weeks ago at one of our MOPS get togethers, I came up with a list of questions for us moms to answer. I thought I would share the questions with my responses to them.
*Note, these are only my opinions and are not based on any facts.
- How do I measure success as a mom? I keep the children alive. No, but really, I measure my success as a mom by how much I can influence my children about God. My husband and my primary goal in raising our children is for them to “Love God and love people”. So at the end of the day, if I feel like I taught them these 2 things, I feel like it has been a pretty successful day. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are many days I fail at this goal (I lose my temper, etc.), but I strive to do this everyday.
- What did my mom teach me about being a mom? I only had my mom in my life for 7 years before she died, but the most important thing I remember my mom taught me was to be fair. She treated my brother and I equally. If one got a toy, the other got a toy. We both always knew she loved us just as much as the other.
- What is your favorite part about being a mom? I have 2 kiddos and my favorite part about being a mom is hearing them laugh, especially to hear them laugh together. There is nothing that makes me happier than hearing my children laugh. They both have such great laughs too!
- What advice would you give another mom? Don’t parent based on others judgments and don’t judge other parents. Parent your children the way you know you need to parent them. Each child is an individual and each household is different, so parent how you feel comfortable. Don’t base your parenting on how other people are parenting. You will only end up in a world of confusion. And you are a great parent to your child!
- What is the biggest surprise about motherhood? It is harder than it looks! When I was younger, I thought parenting was a piece of cake! I was even the person I just mentioned above, judging all the other parents out there-I mean, get it together; it can’t be that hard! But yes ma’am it is! But it is sooo worth it! To hear those giggles and feel those hugs and kisses. To hear the “I love you’s” and pitter patter feet. Yes, it is truly worth it.
- Who is the mom you admire the most? My grandmother is the lady I admire the most. She not only raised her own 3 children, she also raised my brother and me. She has had more loss in her life that I have time to tell you about, but she picks herself up everyday with dignity and continues to live life to it’s fullest (she’s vacationing in New York as a type this). Her influence over our community astonishes me, and she is always willing to share a piece of her heart with everyone around her. I still am perplexed by all the things she has managed to accomplish and will not allow change to keep her down! She is my rock, and she continues to teach me how to overcome all of life’s disappointments with dignity and grace.
- What is the hardest thing about being a mom? Being a brave parent is hard. Raising a brave child might be even harder. We foster our children to be brave and try new things. We want them to be brave now, so they will be bold in the future to share the Gospel. We do try to protect them, but finding the balance is hard! We try to teach our children how to be brave, but also how to be smart while being bold.
- What is your biggest worry concerning your children? Speaking of being brave…honestly though, my biggest fear, especially for my daughter, is something might happen to her-being kidnapped, molested, something along those lines. We live in Thailand and our children are very different looking from Thai children, so that is one of my biggest fears. I pray about it ALL. THE. TIME. It is irrational, I know, but in the back of my mind it is still a reality. I’m a work in progress!
- Who has helped you the most as a mom? I think my husband has helped me the most as a mom. He supports my decisions in parenting, which helps me feel more confident as a mother. He also backs me up when I have to be the “bad guy” and make tough decisions. He’s my parenting rock!
- What is your biggest pet peeve about being a mom? See #4. My biggest pet peeve is other judgmental moms! I really don’t understand why it is necessary. Look in the news today and you see it all over the place! Ugh! It is truly heart breaking! It’s really no one’s place to judge another mom, as long as no one is getting hurt, the child is getting his needs met and the mama is loving her baby!
- What is something you have learned from being a mom? Hugs cure all things for both child and mom. And patience, patience and more patience. Hugs and patience all day long.
- What has changed the most since you have become a mom? I have a new respect for all moms. I have a new respect for my mom and for my grandmother. I now know how much I was and am loved as a child and even now as an adult. But even more than that, I can begin to understand a little more about how vast God’s love is for me. When I look at my children with an overwhelming unconditional love, I can on a small scale begin to understand how much God loves me and all His children.
- How do you handle tantrums? Consistency. When my daughter throws a temper tantrum, she is always asked to go to her room to calm down. Once she has decided she has calmed down, she can come back to whatever she was doing before the tantrum began. At this point, we ask her why she became upset and try to talk about the situation. If she throws a tantrum in public, she is asked if she needs to go to the bathroom to calm down. She typically calms down pretty fast after being removed from the situation. However, this does not mean I am perfect and my nerves don’t ever get the best of me because believe me they do. Sometimes, my first result is getting upset or wanting to spank her. Let’s be real, sometimes I want to throw a tantrum myself! Ah, the calm down method works best for both of us!
I hope you enjoyed the read. Please feel free to share any of your answers in the comments or post the questions to your blog or other writing outlet, but don’t forget to tag me and my blog, so I can check out what you have to say as well!