Mom Crush Monday: Don’t Argue in Front of the Kids: {Guest Post}

Hello and welcome to Mom Crush Monday! Each Monday you can join me here to find a guest post by a fellow mommy blogger! This series has been so much fun! Have you enjoyed reading these posts as much as I have? Chioma describes why she will not argue in front of her kiddos in this post! Look me up onInstagram to see all the happenings with Follow the Dyers. See you again next Monday for another guest post!

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Why I Won’t Argue in Front of My Kids

“I love you too honey” read the message. I just woke up from an afternoon nap and was quite perplexed at the new message on my phone. The message was sent by my husband so it was not what surprised me, but my confusion stemmed from the fact that he used the word “too”. I had no memory of sending him any messages that day…or so I thought. I checked the sent messages on my phone immediately, and indeed I had sent him a message thirty minutes earlier. “I love you so much honey and always want us to be close.” I was even more confused. Did I send a message when I was half asleep?

A few seconds later it hit me…”Daniel!” I called to my then 11 year old son. “Did you send a message from my phone?” Daniel came into the room with a sheepish grin and explained indeed he had sent that message from my phone to his Dad on my behalf. When asked why, he then explained that we both seemed rather frosty that morning, and though we did not argue or anything, he wanted to make sure we stayed happy and did not fight.

I felt a tinge of regret…you see, he had overheard us quarrel in the past and this was his own way of making sure things stayed nice and peaceful.  I felt bad that he ever heard us quarrel at all, and I resolved more than ever no matter what differences I had with his Dad, they would not result in raised voices or us to argue bitterly.

In most marriages, disagreements will come, but how you handle them makes all the difference. It is our duty as parents to ensure our children are protected from any situation which will cause them pain or discomfort. While some pain, such as the emotional hurt of disappointment over a broken toy or the physical hurt of a fall is inevitable, no child really needs to deal with the pain of seeing (or even hearing) his or her parents hurl unkind words at each other or pummel each other with their fists. The collateral damage children face as a result of parental conflicts can last a very long time and can have far-reaching effects.

I remember only ever seeing my parents exchange words once as a child. Boy did I feel awful! It was not a nice feeling. Though it happened over 30 years ago, I remember the incident like it was yesterday. I also remember a child in my neighbourhood who was really aggressive. I found out that his father and mother were always fighting physically. Perhaps he was just mirroring what he had grown accustomed to seeing.

It’s not always easy, but, like I mentioned earlier, we have a duty to protect our children as much as we can to ensure they have a childhood full of joyful memories. No matter how young they are, let us not forget that our precious gifts from God-our children-are like sponges. When they grow up with the baggage from negative memories, they may end up having a negative impact in their marriages and other relationships. Studies have shown children who grow up in conflict-ridden homes easily end up depressed and angry. This, in turn, affects their school work and more. When elephants (parents) fight the grass (children) also suffer.  When children grow up in a healthy loving family unit, they are more confident, secure, happier and are able to practice what they have seen over the years-love!


Why I Won't Argue in Front of My Kids

About Chioma:

Chioma is lawyer, public servant, writer and blogger.  She is a mother of four and is the author of the children’s book “First day at the Big School” and also contributes to HuffingtonPost, BellaNaija, Guardian, TW and other print and online platforms.  Chioma is passionate about seeing women become all God has called them to be despite whatever barriers they may face. She is also passionate about proper policy making and implementation, especially with regards to its role in good governance and nation building.  Visit her at Chiomah’s Blog and follow her on Twitter too!

If you love these posts, don’t forget to follow along on Facebook, so you won’t miss them in the future! Have a great week!

Wednesday Devotional: Ways to Diminish Sin

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For today’s Wednesday Devotional, we will skip over 1 Samuel and move on to 2 Samuel. Last week we talked about Ruth and how God redeemed her and us too! Today, we are going to look at 2 Samuel to see how it can teach us to diminish sin in our lives. I would love to hear anything you have to share in the comments too, and I will see you again next Wednesday for another devotional as we journey through the Old Testament.

David was a man who devoted the majority of his life to serving the Lord, and he even wrote songs praising God. However, he still fell victim to sin because evil Satan went hard after David where he knew he could creep in and tempt David. We can even see the warning signs in David’s life-multiples wives and even more concubines. Women were his weakness.

So even though David loved God and tried to follow hard after him, he had sin in his life, and he did not try to appropriately diminish sin he struggled with. Instead of dealing with his lust head on, he would just add another wife and go about his life.

We too must remember we must constantly be reminding ourselves check our sin too. In the same way, we need to determine our pitfalls and run to the Bible as a guide to keep them from being a target on our back. Ask yourself: What does the Bible say about our actions? How does it address the sin we are dealing with? We have to remember we will all fall prey to sin, but we must fight to keep ourselves pure.

In the story of Bathsheba, David, at first, innocently caught a glimpse of a woman bathing on her roof. Instead of quickly turning away to diminish sin filled thoughts, he became intrigued, curious. His peeked interest gave way to action, and sin became his downfall.

The Scripture:

2 Samuel 11:2-5 says, “It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king’s house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful. And David sent and inquired about the woman. And one said, ‘Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?’ So David sent messengers and took her, and she came to him, and he lay with her. (Now she had been purifying herself from her uncleanness.) Then she returned to her house. And the woman conceived, and she sent and told David, ‘I am pregnant.'”

Ways to Diminish Sin: "It happened, late one afternoon, when David arose from his couch and was walking on the roof of the king's house, that he saw from the roof a woman bathing; and the woman was very beautiful. And David sent and inquired about the woman. And one said, "Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of 'Uriah the Hittite?' So David sent messengers and took her, and she came to him, and he lay with her. (Now she had been purifying herself from her uncleanness.) Then she returned to her house. And the woman conceived, and she sent and told David, 'I am pregnant.'"
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What It Tells Us About How to Diminish Sin:

The moral of the story here is to make sure you are dealing with your sin to protect yourself from Satan’s schemes and advances to bring you down. If you are tempted, then fight it however you can to safety guard yourself from becoming a causality of Satan’s evil plans. When you do sin, flee from it as quickly as you possibly can and repent to our grace-filled God.

Here are some practical defense mechanisms to diminish sin and keep it from becoming a stronghold in your life:

Check Yo’ Self

David was also a very successful man. He was a warrior and championed military leader, so he had power most will never achieve. He also led his nation to a place of spiritual soundness, which they had not had in a long time. Even if no one else was, Satan was keeping score of his accomplishments! King David was on top of the world, and Satan knew it. Then, Satan twisted and bended and used it against David. He is sickeningly good at this maneuver. My goodness, doesn’t he do this same thing to us too? He waits for us to get in a good, comfortable place. Then, Bam! He sucker punches us right where it hurts! For this reason, I want to remind you to make sure to check your pride often. If you become successful in anything, realistically analyze your mindset and outlook often. Weigh it against the Bible and stay grounded in God’s Word.

Have Accountability

With David’s kind of power, often comes a lack of accountability. When you are at the top, who do you answer to? As a result, always make sure you have someone who can and will hold you accountable.

Don’t Be Idle

Seems like many people in influential positions, David pretty much got what he wanted, whenever he wanted it, most likely how he wanted it. These situations also allow a big, open target for Satan to attack. Just as Proverbs 16:27 says, “Idle hands are Satan’s workshop…”, so is sitting passively on the sidelines in this battle. It will only result in your own downfall to sinful behaviors. Make sure you are actively investing in your relationship with God and not overly indulging in the things of this world. Be proactive in your relationship with God and not reactive. 

Our Prayer:

God, thank You for Your protection in our lives. Allow me to remember to always run to you and to seek Your Word constantly. Place someone in my life who will not be afraid to hold me accountable. Constantly remind me of my sin and help me to quickly flee from temptation. I love You, God. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 

A Question:

What do you need to do today to diminish sin in your life?

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Mom Crush Monday: 11 Quotes Every Mother Needs to Hear {Guest Post}

I am glad you are here on this Monday! Today’s post is so inspirational! I hope you will enjoy it! McKayla is sharing 11 quotes every mother needs to hear! After you read these quotes, head over to her page for more inspiration! Also, make sure you are following along on Instagram too! I’ll see you back here next week for another great guest post!

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11 Quotes Every Mother Needs to Hear

Motherhood is such a wonderful journey, I think sometimes we forget how blessed we truly are. Every mother has a different experience, but I think we can all agree that these are quotes every mother needs to hear, and they explain motherhood perfectly!

Children learn more from what you are than what you teach. 

-W.E.B. Dubois

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I think some parents try their hardest to tell their children what’s right and what’s wrong, but they struggle to SHOW them right from wrong. Children learn from example, so the most effective way to shape our children is to be who we want them to become. If we want them to be polite, we need to use our manners. If we want them to have faith, we must show them what faith is. Be the best you can be.

The days are long, but the years are short. 

The Days Are Long But the Years Are Short

Most nights, every mother takes a deep breath and thinks… what a long day! It happens over and over and over again. Then, on your baby’s first birthday… on your child’s first day of school… on your daughter’s wedding day… you think, where did the time go? How did every day feel so long, but the years have flew by? When I’m in a hurry, trying to get things done, and my toddler is hanging on my pants, crying, just wanting to be held, I stop and remember that it won’t be like this forever. My baby won’t always want to cuddle or give me kisses. So I stop what I’m doing, and we watch a movie and snuggle, and I enjoy every second of it. Every mother needs to remember the days are long, but the years are short!

Silence is golden…unless you have a toddler. In that case, it is very, very suspicious. 

11 Quotes Moms Need to Hear

Silence sounds so peaceful. Until you realize that young children aren’t silent for no reason. You sit there and think… what could they be getting into? Should I let it happen so I can enjoy these few minutes and deal with the repercussions later, or should I stop it and endure the screaming that will happen when I stop them from doing whatever they’re doing…? Every mother needs silence, but remember it can be dangerous.

To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today. 

-Barbara Johnson

To Be in Your Child's Memories Tomorrow, You Have to Be in Their Lives Today

People are so sucked into their jobs, their phones, their friends… that they leave little time to be spent with their children. A lot people honestly believe the best thing they can do for their child is to work a lot and make a ton of money so that their child can have everything they’ve ever wanted, but that’s just not the case. Your time is so much more valuable to your relationship with your family than money will ever be.

Parenting is an impossible job at any age.

-Harrison Ford

Parenting is an Impossible Job at Any Age

I am a firm believer that your parenting skills are not based off your age, and this is a quote every mother needs to hear. There are young mothers who are outstanding, and there are older mothers that are wretched. It is a mother’s responsibility to gain maturity and selflessness, no matter their age. I myself am somewhat of a young mother, and I can promise you that my daughter gets the absolute best care possible. If you want to be a good mother, you will be. You will work hard to be the best mom you’re capable of being, at ANY age.

While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about. 

-Angela Schwindt

While We Try to Teach Our Children All About Life, Our Children Teach Us What Life is All About

How can it be that we learn just as much from our babies than they learn from us? They teach us who we are. They teach us how strong we can truly be, and just exactly how much we’re capable of. Most importantly they teach us what true love really is. A kind of love you were never able to feel until you held your baby in your arms for the very first time. We need them just as much as they need us. For this reason, this is a quote every mother needs to hear.

I don’t want my children to follow in my footsteps, I want them to take the path next to me and go further than I ever dreamt possible. 

It’s every parent’s dream is for their children to succeed. We want our children to achieve all of their goals and then some. It’s our job to help guide them onto their path, and when they get off track, we help them to find their way again. Whether or not our lives were good or not, we want our children to have better.

The way we talk to our children, becomes their inner voice. 

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Even from a young age, the way we talk to our babies affects them. Sometimes it’s hard to have patience and use kind words, but it’s so important. We need to use encouraging words, and a respectful tone when we are speaking to them. This will help them to learn how they should be talking to others. If you talk harmfully around or about your children that is what they will be thinking, which can be so hard for their self esteem, and for their ability to build relationships with others.

As a mother, my job is to take care of the possible, and trust God with the impossible. 

-Ruth Bell Graham

Nothing is more impossible than trying to control things that are not in your control. Stressing over things that you cannot change is just making things harder on yourself. Your job is to change the things that you can, and to have faith that everything will be okay. It’s not good for you or your children to be stressed out constantly, so do what you can, and just take a deep breathe.

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. 

-Theodore Hesburgh

It is a father’s job to protect his family and, most importantly, love the mother of his children. When a mother feels love and support, she is much less stressed, resulting in better care for her babies. Mothers NEED a strong support system. We just do. For our health, and for our relationship’s health. Also, a father is a child’s first example of how a man should treat a woman. For his sons, he should be their example of how grateful and appreciative he is of his spouse, taking such good care of his family and his home by showing her love and respect. For his daughters, he should be an example of how they should be treated by a man, and they should know not to accept any less respect than their mother gets from their father. This also goes for divorced or separated parents. There should still be respect for each other, whether or not you are together. Children learn by example; OUR example! Remember, every mother needs their children’s father to love them.

Life doesn’t come with a manual…it comes with a mother.

When life gets hard and you don’t know what to do, you should be able to turn to your mother. Every mother should aspire to be their children’s safe haven. We should continue to strengthen and build our relationships with our children for the rest of our lives. If there is one person your child should be able to trust with anything or come to for any reason, it should be you. This doesn’t mean we come to their rescue when they make bad decisions, and enable them to make poor choices. It means we uplift them to do better, we give them advice, and we encourage them to carry on. We will always be an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on. 

Thanks for reading!

11 Quotes Every Mother Needs to Hear

About McKayla:

McKayla is a young wife and mother. She has always had a passion for 2 things: writing and researching,so her dream has always to become a successful blogger. She is constantly researching something interesting and wanting to tell the world about it, so make sure to check out her blog: Motivation for Mom. Also, make sure to find her on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest!


Wednesday Devotional: Redeemed

Have you ever met a woman who inspires, challenges and encourages you all at the same time? Do you know someone with so much courage, faith and obedience it doesn’t even seem possible? Is there someone that comes to mind when you think of the word “redeemed’?

This person for me is Ruth.

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The Scripture:

Ruth 2:16-17 says, “But Ruth said, ‘Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God. Where you die I will die, and there will I be buried. May the Lord do so to me and more also if anything but death parts me from you.'”

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What It Tells Us About Being Redeemed:

Ruth inspires me on some many levels. One way is to let the past be the past and not carry it into the future. You see, Ruth lost her husband, she was left with no children and she was now living with her mother-in-law. (A scary thought for some of you, I’m sure!) However, even though she had just lost her husband, she didn’t allow that to keep her stuck. Instead, she kept moving forward.

We all have a purpose, and Ruth realized this fact. She went on with her life and lived in obedience to God, even though her heart must have been shattered into a million pieces at the loss of her husband and her barrenness. However, she remained faithful, and she dared to press on in life and see what else God had in store for her. Maybe all she could do was hope for God’s best in her heartache? Nonetheless, she pushed forward in certainty that God would provide for her.

Even though we may not be able to see what God is doing in our lives, He has a purpose. Ruth had no idea the plans God had for her life, but she walked in faith that God would follow through with His plan for her life.

Her faithfulness to her mother-in-law encourages me as well. She stuck with her and provided for her. She cared for her and loved her. She followed her and trusted her. She followed God, and God redeemed her.

Ruth followed God without expecting anything in return. She knew God would provide for her, which is exactly what He did. He took an unlikely girl on a heartbreaking journey with her mother-in-law, picking food from a farm and He redeemed her.


If you follow God, He will redeem you too! No matter who or where you are, God can lead you on a journey of redemption as well. You can be redeemed!

The most amazing part of this story is not that God gave her a new husband or that God provided food for her. No, through Ruth’s family lineage, Jesus would be born. This part of her story is the most amazing part. I know I say it over and over again, but God uses the ordinary people and makes them extraordinary. He uses the unlikely people, and He makes them remarkable pieces of His Majestic Plan.

So my challenge for you is to leave a heritage of faith your family will want to follow. Ruth sure did. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her, but she picked herself up and began to move forward on the most amazing journey God would ever send her on. She followed him through the difficult times and the good times and ended up being a woman many adore thousand of years later. What a heritage she left! God was at work in Ruth’s life, and He is working in your life, my friend. It may be hard, but God will carry you through. God will fill you up if you are heartbroken. No matter where you are in your life, you can be redeemed. God loves you and is pursuing you. You only have to choose to follow Him.

Our Prayer:

God, thank You for leading me through the times I think are impossible. Thank You for leading me closer to You. Allow me to never forget You always lead my life with Your Plan in mind, and Your plan is always better than mine. Help me to walk in faith with my eyes always looking to You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 

A Question:

What holds you back from allowing God to redeem your life?

I would love for you to leave me a comment below to answer the question, ask questions or share anything you want me to know! Thanks for reading, and I hope you stop by again next Wednesday!

Mom Crush Monday: How Television Looks to This Mom {Guest Post}

Hi! I am so glad you decided to join me today for this Mom Crush Monday post! I love Tavia’s post today about children and television. She explains why she’s not a television mom! She has similar posts on her blog, as well as other great posts too, so make sure you check out her links at the bottom! I hope you love today’s post as much as I did! Join me right back here next week for another amazing guest post, and don’t forget to follow along on Instagram!

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Why I’m Not a Television Mom

Our culture seems to be obsessed with television. I get it, really I do. It’s a box that plays segments of highly entertaining stuff. There are so many options. There is literally something for everyone these days, including kids. Many shows geared towards young children even brag about “making your baby smart” or “helping brain development.”  However, those shows will never replace real, hands-on experiences in the world. For this reason, my husband and I made the choice to approach television a little differently than most families in America today.

Let me put this out there first. I love to watch TV and movies! I am excited for the day when my daughter is old enough to have a little bowl of popcorn and snuggle with us under a blanket and watch a movie. Will I get to a point in life where I need to turn on a show to distract my child so I can get something done? Of course! However, I see important reasons to limit the amount of TV a young child watches.

You see, television is passive. A child sits in front of the TV and just zones out. We’ve all seen it-that blank stare kids get when focusing in on a show. They are not truly engaging in an activity, but instead are being stimulated in a sort of “false” way. I know that kids can learn something from a show, but it doesn’t compare to what they can learn from being truly active in their environment. It’s simply proven to not be the best activity for kids.

I can count on one hand the number of times I have turned on a TV show or video for my daughter (okay, I just counted. It’s literally five times). I’m just not a fan of all the technology that kids have access to these days, and I have a special concern when technology is overused on the littlest ones. Young children are in some of the most important years of their lives. It is important to give them as much experience and active learning as possible!

So, instead of flipping on the tube at home, we want our kids to be able to interact with others, enjoy playing outside, use their imaginations and do those things well. We know that sometimes, too much TV can hinder those objectives.

For us, we want to encourage our gal to play with different toys-to build, create, and explore things around the house. We want her to play outside and get her hands dirty in the mud. We want to let her pick flowers (weeds). We want our daughter to look at books and be read to over and over. These activities are mentally and physically active and stimulate her brain, rather than passively entertaining the way watching TV does.

It is important for each family to decided how they want to approach TV with their kids. A baby comes into the world literally unable to do most things and knowing nothing! There are so many wonderful, amazing things for a little one to learn and experience in those early formative years. We wanted an importance to be placed on play, interaction, exploration and outdoors time rather than television. As such, my husband and I don’t even turn the TV on around our daughter. Simply because we want her to focus on playing, and so she doesn’t see us distracted from her. Again, hear me say, our children will watch TV and movies sometimes. I’m sure I will occasionally use Saturday morning cartoons as a way to let me sleep in a little bit longer and a family movie night will be one of our regulars, but in our household, you will not see the TV on for our kids routinely.

I challenge you to rethink how your family does TV and to consider if maybe it’s time for a change.

Why This Mom Limits Television

About Tavia:

Tania is a woman saved by grace, a wife, new mom, and lover of coffee and donuts! During the week, she’s a hustle and bustle fourth grade teacher (soon to be a SAHM!), and in her (limited) spare time, you can find her working on her blog Everyday Smith. She is a homebody by nature. If she could, she would spend all her time at home with her husband, little girl and their two dogs!

Follow her on Facebook and Instagram for more of her life and parenting adventure!

Wednesday Devotional: An Extraordinary Woman

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Continuing on in our look through the Old Testament, today we will look at an extraordinary story in Judges. So far, we have talked about Sarah, Rebekah and Leah from Genesis, the Midwifes in Exodus, how Leviticus reminds us of Jesus’ sacrifice for us, Numbers reminded us of God’s plan for our lives and, finally, we learn Rahab’s story in Joshua. Now we will learn about a pretty radical woman. If you don’t know this story, it might catch you off guard, but don’t miss the point! Feel free to share any feedback in the comments and see you back here next week!

Let me introduce you to a woman in the Bible. Her name is Jael, and her family was likely making weapons for a battle going on nearby to where she was living. Jael lived in a tent which she packed up, moved and set up again each time her family would set out to look for work making weapons and farm utensils.

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The Scripture:

Judges 5:24, “Most blessed of women be Jael, the wife of Heber the Kenite, of tent-dwelling women most blessed.”

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What It Tells Us About Being Extraordinary vs. Ordinary:

In the heat of the battle, the war general, Sisera, runs away from the battle and fled to Jael’s camp because he was seeking refuge. When Jael spotted Sisera, she extended an offer for him to come into her tent. He came into her tent, and she hid him with a rug. He was so exhausted from battle and the fleet to safety, he ended up falling fast asleep under the rug. Then, Jael…wait for it…drove a tent peg through his skull. Oh my! If I wouldn’t have known this story already, I would not have seen that coming!

Jael was such a courageous woman. She extended an offer for a war general to come into her tent not knowing the outcome. Due to her faithfulness, she out strengthened and out witted one of the most powerful men of that time period using a tent steak and a hammer nonetheless!  Sisera and his army were not defeated by some big brave army! No, he was single handedly defeated by an extraordinary woman, who was fearlessly used to defeat God’s enemy. You see, Jael came from Israelite heritage and was protecting her lineage-God’s people.

God confirms over and over again He can do what we think is impossible.

God promises to never forget his people. Even when the situation seems to be hopeless, God is at work. Wow! Is this something I need to hear right now? You bet it is!

When things are going good, don’t we sometimes forget about God. I’ve certainly been there! Oh, but when things are tough, God where are you? Sound familiar? Aren’t we so much the same as the Israelites time and time again?

Oh, but God is an amazing God! As a result, He is always right there beside us, just waiting on us to call on His name. He rescues us every single time, and He always forgives no matter how big or how small we mess up. He is too good to us!

Our Prayer:

God, thank You for using ordinary people and making them extraordinary in order to accomplish Your plans. Help me to remember You have incredible plans for my life. Use me to glorify You. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 

A Question:

How would you like to be more like Jael? What impossible things has God accomplished in your life?

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Mom Crush Monday: 3 Ways to De-stress Amongst Mommy Chaos {Guest Post}

Welcome to another fabulous #momcrushmonday ! Another mama blogger, Laneic, has some great words on how to de-stress amongst mommy chaos, and we can all use some of this advice! Check her out on social media (listed below) and follow me on Instagram! I hope today’s guest post helps you as much as it did me on this wonderful Monday! See you back here next week!

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3 Ways to De-stress Amongst Mommy Chaos

You’re a mom so you know there are times when things can get a bit…well, crazy! From shouting kids, to a huge mess that appears to be growing, crying, cooking, errands, and everything else, it makes sense that sometimes the chaos of motherhood can downright stress us out.

Before you wave your white flag in surrender (aka the towel from the pile of laundry you promised to get to eventually), here are 3 ways you can de-stress, right in the middle of the mommy chaos.

Check Your Body Language

The human body is an amazing self-preservation machine, so when things start getting overwhelming, your body starts firing up warning signals and gearing up to protect itself, mentally and physically. A great way to ease stress is to convince your body to chill out and stop sending those panic signals to your brain. You can do this by simply stopping to take a few deep breaths. You want to focus on your breathing, not the reason why you needed to stop and do it (this means while you’re breathing, instead of thinking “these kids are driving me nuts”, try thinking “inhale, exhale” instead). You can also do a quick body relaxation exercise. Start at your toes and slowly relax all those muscles that have probably built up tension, working your way to the top.  

Do a Mental Check

Sometimes things have piled up mentally, and it tends to exaggerate everything else. If you’re feeling particularly stressed, stop and list out why you’re stressed. Then determine if it’s really even such a big deal. You might find the kids are being loud, but they’re actually not doing anything destructive. Sure, the dishes could be done, but it’s only been a hour since you’ve all had breakfast. The source of your stress might very well be unreasonably high expectations of yourself and your kids. It can relieve some pressure to be mindful of that fact and lower those expectations.

Change of Scenery

Yup, get out the house. Just leaving the area can help. It can be a quick walk by yourself, rounding up your kids for a walk around the neighborhood, or a 5 minute drive to the gas station, but changing up your environment can help dispel stress. If you can’t actually get away, just a step outside of your front door. A few minutes of breathing can do wonders.

Try these out next time you feel stress bubbling up. When all else fails, never hesitate to join in on the chaos. If your kids are being rambunctious and there are a million things to worry about, sometimes the best thing you can do is let it go for the time being and play. If you can’t beat em’, join em’!

3 Ways to De-Stress Amongst Mommy Chaos

Laneic is a self-care and wellness coach for busy mommas and blogger at Make It 218. She spent her first year trying to be and do everything under the sun, and she was forced to take a step back and start making self-care a priority. Her mission now is to help other mothers who are burned out, or well on their way to being stressed, to making self-care a regular part of their lives, reconnecting with who they are separately of their children, and pursuing their happiness without guilt.

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Wednesday Devotional: An Unlikely Story

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After being in Numbers last week, I am excited to move on into Joshua this week. I love the story of Joshua (not just because of my husband’s name! Ha!). So let’s jump right in and see what it tells us about this unlikely story of a woman named Rahab. As always, thanks for following along with the Wednesday Devotional series!

The city of Jericho is probably most known for it’s city walls. If you have ever heard of the ancient city of Jericho, then you are familiar with it’s enormous structure. The structure which came down because of the faith of the Israelite people.

In ancient times, a city with towering walls was a sign of protection and strength. The walls would have also provided views to what was coming toward the city outside of the barrier. One would not only be able to look out over the city of Jericho, but there would have been a view to see who was coming into the city as well.

However, with Jericho, no matter how strong the barricade and how diligent the watchmen were, the walls would still come crumbling down because the Israelites had faith in God’s great promises.

The Scripture:

Joshua 2:11, “And as soon as we heard it, our hearts melted, and there was no spirit left in any man because of you, for the Lord your God, he is God in the heavens above and on the earth beneath.”

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What This Unlikely Story Tells Us:

Enter Rahab. She was a women with an incredible view from these city walls. She had a house built in the side of the city wall, where she could look out over the city and look outside to see the visitors coming into the city. Perhaps it helped her with her business. You see, Rahab was a prostitute, so having a view like that one helped her see who was coming and going. This kind of view could help with a business of that type.

You must be thinking…did I just say prostitute? Well, yes, actually I did! So what does a prostitute have to to with the Bible?

Well, this particular prostitute, Rahab, happened to see 2 foreign men come into the city one day. These 2 men were sent by Joshua, the new leader of the Israelites, to spy on Jericho. Rahab had heard the stories of the Israelites and how God had protected and provided for them. She feared God and believed in His promises, so she decided to hide the spies from the kings men in order to spare their lives. In return, Rahab asks the spies to allow her and her family to live when the Israelites come back to take over the land. When they realized she believed in God, they agreed to grant her life.

Did you catch that? She believed and her life was saved. It wasn’t the spies themselves who decided to save her life, but God was the one who saved her. God did not allow Rahab to die because she had faith in Him. God chooses the most unlikely people to fulfill His purpose. It doesn’t matter if we are free of sin (thank goodness!) or not, God is glorified through all of our lives. God not only chose to redeem her on that day, but He would use her to accomplish His extraordinary plan by allowing Jesus to be born from her lineage! Our God is a great God!

Our Prayer:

God, thank You for using me, even when I feel inadequate. Help me to remember You have a purpose for my life, even when I cannot see it. Be glorified through me, even when I feel like I am an unlikely story for you to do so. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 

A Question:

How do you need to change the view of your story to fall more in line with the way God views you?

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Mom Crush Monday: Why Learning With Senses is So Important {Guest Post}


It’s another Monday and another day for me to share with you another fabulous mom blogger! I am excited to share Amy’s post today about why learning with one’s senses is so important for children! She also gives some great examples of how it works too! Follow all of her social media handles below to get more great ideas too and follow along on Instagram with the #momcrushmonday and #followthedyers hashtags as well! Enjoy today’s post, and I look forward to seeing you next week!


Learning Why Sensory Play is So Important
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Why Learning with Senses is So Important

So what’s sensory play? Playing with your senses, of course! It gives kids the freedom to explore and learn using their senses. Research shows that sensory play develops nerve connection to brain pathway. This leads to a child’s ability in complex learning, and it starts with birth. When babies enter the world, they immediately start learning using their senses. As they grow, children’s senses are their most familiar and most basic way to explore and process new information. Sensory play enhances learning through hands-on activities that stimulate the child’s senses. This is a great way for children to explore the world they live in! There are many more reasons why this type of play is so essential.

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Sensory Play is Where Kids Learn Senses Attributes

  • sight: seeing different colors, shapes, textures, etc
  • touch: feeling temperatures (like warm water or cold ice) and textures (like grainy sand or slimy playdoh)
  • taste: sometimes that’s not a good thing when you don’t want them to eat something like paint (yuck!) haha
  • hearing: like hearing the water splashing or rice clicking as they pour out from the container.
  • smell: smelling the soapy shaving cream or lavender if you add the essential oil to the water sensory play

Sensory Play Helps with Kids’ Development

These skills are what your kids will develop as they do sensory play:

  • fine motor skills
  • gross motor skills
  • coordination
  • concentration
  • collaborating
  • exploring their environment
  • developing imagination
  • enabling creative thinking
  • problem solving
  • experimenting with solutions
  • language development
  • enhancing memory
  • calming technique for anxious or frustrated kids

Sensory Play is Messy

Sensory play can get messy. Real messy. Many of mothers (and me, ahem) hate messes because we have to clean up. Right? I hate to tell you this, but… MESSY IS GOOD! Messy play gives kids endless learning and encourages them to create and explore using their senses. So, let your kids be free with their mess. 🙂

Kids learn new things through sensory play

Sensory play is essential for kids’ learning and development because kids are introduced to new things such as: colors, sand, food, words, numbers, and much more! My 20-months-old daughter learned how to count St. Patrick’s coins because of sensory play!

Too Much Work? Too hard? Don’t have the supplies?

Some parents may feel overwhelmed with sensory play because they don’t have the time or the supplies. Most sensory activities need objects you already have around your house. Bins, kitchen utensils, water, cooking ingredients, pom poms, rice, pasta, craft supplies, and the list goes on. After you gather the things you need, it should only take less than five minutes to set everything up. Your kids will be entertained long enough for you to sit down and relax. Below you will find five easy sensory activities.

Top Five Sensory Activities

  1. Shaving Cream Sensory Bin
  2. Finger Painting
  3. Rice Sensory Bin
  4. Cotton Balls Sensory Play
  5. Make DIY SNOW!

Have fun and get MESSY! 😉

Why Learning to Play With Your Senses is So Important


About Amy:

Amy blogs about these activities and more on her website KidsivityTo find more fun activities for kids AND mommies (DIY crafts, home decor, traveling, and fashion) follow her on her blog and follow her on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest or Twitter

Wednesday Devotional: Don’t Settle for Less Than God’s Plan

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Sorry to missed last Wednesday’s post, but I was in Malaysia with our intern here at the church, who had to go on a Visa run. If you ever have the chance, you should go! We went to Penang, and it was beautiful! Their street art is amazing, Penang Hill’s view of the city was breathtaking, and, well, they have a beach! Who doesn’t love the beach? I am hoping to get a post up soon about our trip there! It was a blast! Anyhow, I am so glad you are here for this week’s Wednesday Devotional! Our devotional last time was about the book of Leviticus, so today we will be moving on to Numbers! Numbers may seem like such a boring book of the Bible, but it is actually pretty cool when you take a step back and look at the big picture! So let’s jump in and see what Number’s tells us about God’s plan for our lives.

In Numbers, God asks Moses to take a census several times in order to prepare the people for what will come next. However, each census is not just a number to God. Each number is a person. A person God created. A person He created to fulfill a specific plan He designed just for them. Furthermore, God knows each and every one of those numbers, those people He created, by name!

God created each of us with a specific purpose and a specific role in the body of Christ.

The Scripture:

Numbers is so can be so encouraging! Numbers 6: 24-26 says, “The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.”

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What It Tells Us About God’s Plan for Our Lives:

Media pushes and tugs us into one direction, to fit into one specific mold-skinny, beautiful, flawless, successful, put together, etc. While chasing these things, we run further and further away from God. All the while, we are missing God’s plan for our life.

We see this same sad story in Numbers Chapter 32. Go ahead and read it. The Israelites were willing to fight for a piece of land just outside of the land God had promised them. They had not even made it to the perfect land God was giving them, and they were going to fight for something different-something outside of His plan and His promise. It sounds all too familiar doesn’t it? I know it does for my life time and time again.

How often do we settle for less than what God has given us? 

The moral of this story: seek God’s Word and not what the world has to offer us. The world will only disappoint us with it’s ever changing definition of what “in”. However, God’s Word and His promises always remain the same. They are never changing and always true.

God is so gracious to keep us and continually forgive us when we let Him down and fall short of bringing Him glory. He is always graciously accepts us back into His loving arms, even when we run away from Him. He gives us peace, even when we don’t believe we can have it or deserve. Our God is so good to us, even though we are so undeserving.

Our Prayer:

God, thank You for creating me with a specific purpose in mind. Help me to understand what this purpose is and to fulfill it with Your help. Help me to focus on You instead of being distracted by the things of this world. Guide me to seek only what You have planned for my life and not to settle for less than Your plan. I love You, God. In Jesus’ Name, Amen. 

A Question:

So, I ask you, what are you settling for instead of seeking God’s plan in your life?

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