Happy Monday! I continue to be blown away by my Mom Crush Monday guest posts and today is no different! I am loving today’s post by Emily, who is sharing about how motherhood gave her self-confidence she never knew it could. As always, please tell her how much you loved her post in the comments and follow along with us on Instagram using the hashtag #momcrushmonday and #followthedyers , and make sure to stop by back next Monday to read from another awesome mom blogger too!
Gaining Self-Confidence Through Motherhood
Awkward, socially anxious, filled with self doubt… just a few of the ways
I felt about myself well into adulthood.
I unwittingly spent hours worrying whether my shirt matched my shoes
well enough. I would wonder when, WHEN, would that email I sent get a
reply? Had I insulted the recipient in any way? Were my questions too
insipid to merit answers?
Pregnancy fed into my worry-prone personality. I had a whole host of new
things to stress about… my health, the baby’s health, what to buy to
prepare for his or her arrival, how I would handle returning to work, etc.
After I gave birth to my son, I was filled with all of the typical (and
probably some extra) new parent worries. I had no experience with babies –
I didn’t know what was normal, and I didn’t want to do anything wrong. I
tried to breastfeed and was challenged because my son wouldn’t latch to
drink my milk. Nothing felt right.
As the days turned into weeks, I slowly got the hang of mothering. My
son’s weight slowly but steadily crept up the growth chart. He smiled for
the first time. I felt comfortable taking him out with me alone without
my husband. We muddled on.
One afternoon, already a year into my son’s life, I left the house with my
son and headed to the bus stop. I walked along purposefully and all of a
sudden the most unexpected of thoughts hit me. I felt good. I felt
self-confident. Yes, I was tired and stretched thin between motherhood and
work. I’d hardly put any thought into my appearance before leaving the
house. I didn’t know what I would cook for dinner, but I felt happy.
With all the worry that motherhood brought me, I did not expect to gain
self-confidence as a mom. It took me time to realize it, but giving birth
and nurturing a child into toddlerhood made me feel proud, and it made me
As a mom, I discovered I was capable of so much more than I thought. I
realized that all the little things I used to stress about just don’t
matter. I might still be prone to anxiety, self doubt, or worry, but I can
see now there is so much more to life than dwelling on those feelings.
Emily is a mom to a very active 1.5 year old boy. She is a regular at the
neighborhood playground. She and her husband are from the USA, but
currently live in Hong Kong for work. Struggling through the early days of
motherhood while trying to breastfeed spurred her to launch her website,
FreshMilkMama, in hopes of supporting other women who find breastfeeding a
Follow her journey and find breastfeeding and postpartum health
tips on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest.