Welcome to Monday! I know some of you hate Mondays, but I am loving them because I get to share so many wonderful posts from other amazing bloggers! This Mom Crush Monday series really makes my heart happy to read such fantastic stories from other mamas! Today, Carrie shares with us a very important topic of how we can stop the mom guilt. Tell her how much you love her post in the comments below and check the end of the post to follow her blog too! Also, make sure you are following along on Instagram and use the hashtags #momcrushmonday to share a mom you think is pretty special too! I hope you enjoy this post as much as I do!
3 Ways to Drop the Mom Guilt
Mommy guilt may be at an all-time high. Today we have more information at our fingertips than previous generations had in a lifetime. This causes us to second-guess our instincts and look over our shoulders at what other moms are doing. Also, women today have more choices: work full time, stay at home, or something in between? Cloth or disposable? Breast/bottle… ad infinitum. With more choices comes more analysis paralysis.
Motherhood is supposed to be enjoyable. Here are three ways to lose the mom guilt.
1. Know Your Values
Speaking with a dear friend the other day, I lamented that looking at other people’s spotlessly decorated homes on Instagram made me feel inadequate. “But stuff like that has never been important to you!” she declared. “Also, most people are up to their eyeballs in debt for all that new furniture, and you guys aren’t. You should be proud.”
Hmm. She’s on to something there.
We’re all different, and we’re happiest when we make choices that align with our highest values. Knowing those values is an anchor when we’re tempted to compare ourselves with others.
2. Learn to Laugh
Motherhood. You gotta laugh to keep from cryin’, eh? When the baby has a stomach flu and the dog just barfed too, the teenagers are hormonal and you just burned lunch; just laugh. Put on a comedy podcast, watch Nacho Libre, bust out your silliest 80’s pop. Do whatever to remind yourself that this motherhood thing is a temp gig. Keeping yourself in good humor does wonders for the mood of the entire family.
When you do make a mistake with your kids, acknowledge it, and ask for forgiveness. You’ll model healthy relationships, and your kids’ respect for you will grow. Guilt is designed to be a proactive emotion: we don’t like how it feels, so we avoid doing things that will trigger it. Harness it by developing skills around things that trigger you. Keep a journal of times you “lost it”, and look for patterns. Did you yell because of clutter? Fatigue? Too much caffeine? Learn from it and make some tweaks, and forgive yourself!
Carrie Willard is a homeschooling mom of 7, and she’s on fire encouraging moms to make time for what they love.
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